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Abt virginity

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I m not virgin n gonna marry...will my husband know at wedding night that m not virgin...if wil no bleed..plz answer me ...m so worried
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No, he won't be able to tell. Not everyone bleeds when they have sex - if you are relaxed and well lubricated and you go slow - even if you were a virgin, you may not have any bleeding. If you are o.k. with faking it and acting like you are a virgin, there is no way your husband to be would know. I guess if he insisted on a medical exam to prove you were a virgin - there could be some doubt or a problem but it doesn't sound like he is requiring that.

I do agree with the others regarding the lie - if you can't be honest with your soon to be husband about this issue it doesn't say much about your relationship.

Believe me I have been with my guy for 16 years and it is one of the most important traits in a relationship - being honest and telling the truth and having the other person accept you - forgive you if necessary - and moving on.

Please think carefully about this - you seem very scared of your soon to be husband finding out - and this should be one of the happiest times of your life -

It might be scary to tell him but you may feel much better about yourself afterwards - AND - depending on his reaction you will learn much about your future husband to be.

Good luck to you.

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Starting your marriage off with a lie is a terrible idea. If you lie to him and he finds out he will never trust you again, and if he does not trust you, or vice versa then the relationship is never going to work. We all make mistakes and I suggest you be honest with him immediately. Sure, it should not matter if you are a virgin or not but for some people it is very important. Just think about how you would feel if he lied to you about something as important as this. I mean really, it was just one other person... you should rally be proud of youself. Many women today sleep with anyone, anytime, for any reason. That you were able to have sex with just one person is an accomplishment to me, and you have nothing to be ashamed of. Do';t be afraid, Perfect love casts out fear.

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J

Does he already think you're a virgin? If he expects or believes you're a virgin and you're not..........? Doesn't sound like the best way to start out a marriage. If he really loves you, it shouldn't make any difference. If he's that hung up on you're being a virgin, he may have issues that should concern you. In any case, the least you can do is be honest and up front with him before hand.

Disclaimer: I'm not a marriage counselor but I do believe in honesty is an important basis in any relationship.

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Women don't always bleed, in the first place, but I'm wondering about your concern. There are cultures that demand virginity at the wedding, and entering a marriage with fear is not a good thing at all, so the entire situation doesn't sound good for you. If he has some idea that he is going to know or that you have to bleed, it is all over with that, so tell him before the wedding. It seems like this wedding needs to be more equal from the beginning. You deserve love and respect. Period. The end.

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The short answer is no, he won't be able to tell. There's several reasons that could be a cause for no bleeding. You could use tampons, hymen broke due to exercise or a previous injury, using 'sex toys', etc.

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I jz wanted to know....will he know or not when he wil do sex wid me?

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